Making your kids feel loved is not just by giving them whatever they want, because more importantly what want is your presence more than any material things.
As parents, we all want to create a nurturing environment where our children feel cherished, valued, and secure. In today’s fast-paced world, it can sometimes be challenging to balance all our responsibilities while ensuring our little ones receive the love and attention they need.
Everyday acts from minute to biggest are equally important in raising children.
Making your kids feel loved is a continuous process of your presence, communication, love, appreciation, and support.
Here in this post, I will share some strategies to make your kids feel more loved. These strategies will help you create loving bonds with your children.
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1. Give your time
Be with your kid whenever or wherever you can. They love to be surrounded by their parents.
Talk with them about their day and how they spent their time in school and college. Ask them about everything that they did in your absence.
This action of yours will make your kids feel loved and concerned.
Praise them for their minutes of achievements. Play with them. Be present and give all your attention whenever they say something.
2. Express your love
Time and again, whether playing, eating, or studying show how much you love them.
Express them how precious they are to you. Give them hugs, kisses, love and care frequently.
My daughter is a working woman but still, I express my love to her by saying ‘I Love You’ often, hugging her and kissing her. Your child will always remain a small kid in your eyes no wonder how big they are.
3. Actively Listen to them
Listen to your kids whenever they are sharing anything with you.
Be a friend to them first and foremost. If they can see you as their friend with whom they can share anything with you, then that is the biggest accomplishment for a parent.
It should not be like your kid is speaking to you and you are just listening for namesake, and your mind is busy in your work or on your business matters.
Pay full attention when they speak. Be fully present.
Do not make any comments when they are speaking and do not make any interruptions.
You can give your opinion when they finish speaking. Praise them for their intelligence if the topic is good for them.
Kids can be wrong in their judgement, so answer very tactfully without hurting their emotions if the topic is not beneficial for them.
Children know much more than you. They understand your body language more than you.
So when listening to your kids, listen.
4. Praise your kids
Praise your kids for their success and every little achievement in life.
Support them in their failures. Always teach them that not to be defeated in any circumstance is far more important than winning.
Teach them that they can try again and again. The important thing is not to give up.
Make them feel you are always there for them no matter what. And let them know that you trust them fully.
Your trust in them will translate as the faith they have in themselves.
5. Respect your kid
Showing respect to kids is like showing how important they are to you in your life. Respect their thoughts and actions. Treat them with love and kindness.
Always remember not to disrespect them in front of their friends, family or even in front of strangers.
If you have done something hurtful to your kid, apologize to your kid and treat them as full human beings.
Do not neglect their feelings just because they are kids. Practice open communication with your kid and they too will learn the same.
If you have more than one kid, do not disrespect in front of their sibling. You won’t know, but these kind of acts can hurt them very badly.
Any positive action you are showing to your kid is your pure love. And pure love will easily be felt by your kids.
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6. Be an Ideal model for your kid
For your kid, you are everything for them. They always look up to you in their good or bad times.
You are a super mom/super dad, a superhero for them. How you behave and interact with others around you whether your husband, your wife, your in-laws or even strangers influences them very much.
They are always looking at you and your actions unconsciously become their actions and ways of behaving too.
Your children are your reflection, your shadow. What kind of person you are, you will see in the character of your kids.
If you wish your kids to be the best, be the best. To transform the lives of your children you have to transform into the best version of yourself.
When they see you treating your spouse, family members, neighbours whether they are poor or rich, strangers and even the animals with compassion and respect, they too will learn the same.
They will feel that if their mother loves everyone so dearly how much more she loves you will be beyond imagination.
P.S How to be a good role model to your kids
7. Love their hobbies and interests
Every child has their unique talents and likes. Help them find their talents.
If they know their hobbies, encourage and support them to polish them.
Showing interest in their hobbies will make them feel good.
P.S 50 Hobby Ideas for children
8. Show gratitude to your kid
Show gratitude for every little act they perform. Be grateful to them for being in your life.
Express how grateful you are for their presence and share he/she is making a great difference in your life.
I am and will always remain grateful to my daughter for being in my life. She is my everything.
I was her role model, a super mom and now she has become my role model and my super daughter.
9. Do not make a comparison
Kids do not like comparing her/him with other kids even to their siblings. They will feel hurt, angry and discriminated, which can distance them from you. Everyone is unique in their way.
Instead of comparing them with other children make them realise that she/he is unique in their way.
Every flower in this world is beautiful and unique in itself. They are beautiful flowers of this beautiful world. There is no comparison.
10. Make study a joyful:
Study is the main topic where your kid will feel annoyed, bored and agitated. Most of the misunderstandings between the kids and the parents are because of the study.
When you wish them to study and your kid is not ready, do not be so strict in their study that they start hating the study and you at the same time.
Mostly, our mothers make the topic of study so serious that without our realization, we make our kids feel overwhelmed and pressured. This is especially the case with Indian parents.
Do not force them to study. Let the interest arouse in them naturally. Check that they are in a good mood whenever they sit to study.
Praise them for their success. Praise them even if they know just a single answer.
Give them rewards for their good result. Support them when they cannot perform well in their exams.
By being a good teacher in their life, you can make them feel loved more than any other way.
Final Thoughts on how to make your kids feel loved
By inculcating these effective strategies and actions into your daily life, you can help your children feel more loved and respected.
Childhood is the foundation for a human being’s life, and you have this wonderful opportunity to build a solid foundation to make a wonderful human being for this Earth.
To make your kid feel loved is not that you bring enough of any material things for them and make them happy. Any material thing is temporary which gives temporary happiness.
You need to build lasting happiness, for which everyday action is important.
Your kid’s successful life entirely depends upon how you treat him/her in their journey.
When you make your kid feel better and loved, they will feel more fulfilled and happy.
Their fulfilling lives can contribute positively to society, nation and the entire world.
Give your best in raising your children. It’s okay if you make mistakes. Parenting is a continuous learning process too. Give yourself grace, and just strive to do your best each day.
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